So many single women these days have such unrealistic expectations... They want this and this and this and this and he must meet that, he must take me to this place even though it's in a completely different state blah blah blah... BS, it's complete BS with womens serious unrealistic expectations. Most of these women that have these unrealistic expectations are not "all that" and they themselves are not "all that"... What's she bringing to the table????? Women's unrealistic expectations is the #1 killer that constantly sabotages women. Yeah like women are seriously going to look for a guy thousands miles away from where she lives, get on a plane fly to a state for a date, simply up and leave her family and start this la la life with this guy from somewhere else and it's thousands miles away... RIGHT... Yeah there are always a few women that would go to those extremes but those women usually come from broken homes, are not that close to her family blah blah blah...

A lot of women these days have this imaginary pie in the sky fantasy and are like well I'll hold out year after year after year in hopes, yes in hopes that this imaginary so called "perfect guy" comes to her door, sweeps her off her feet, he of course has the white horse right outside her door, he's going to sweep her off her feet, ride off on this white horse, he's of course 6+++++ feet TALLLLLLLL, built like a dum* a** brick, he of course would never hurt her even though he's at least the minimum a foot taller than her, has automatically has millions upon millions of dollars that can never run dry, never has to work a day in their lives blah blah blah... Um yeah now you seriously need bit**ed slapped into reality. Of course both men and women have fantasies but women need to stop shooting for the pie in the sky fantasy, something that's impossible, will never happen and seriously get into reality. Your guy is not going to be (all those things on your impossible "list")... He might be a couple of those things but he's not going to be every single thing on your list.

I think the secret to marrage is never get married untill you have date for 3 years, realy get to know them, I lived with my husband befor we got married, I saw the good the bad and ugly, you then talk about what u dont like about each other and can you ajust or change, only then do u get married,i was married 45 years I am a widow now, but I can tell u I loved my husband when he died, with all the passion I had the day I fell in love with him,he had religion, I did not, he was a catholic, I was born a protestant never went to church, its the people who make a marrage work, no one else

Stupid spammer scum, I hope you live miserably moron!

Anne Landers said it best close to 50 years ago...ANY woman can get married if she lowers her standards far enough.

Congratulations. Marriage is hoped to be but not always the bed of roses we sought. You have my compliments and the complimnets of others. Who have love in their marriages, along with the growing pains. Thank God, for life.

I've been married for 37 years to my best friend, and our love grows stronger every day. Sure there are good and bad times, but if you truly love one another you get through it. It's just my personal opinion, but I think a strong faith in God by both partners is essential to keeping your marriage strong. Also, if you want to stay married, both people have to learn to compromise and learn to not always put your needs, wants, etc. first. I can't imagine going through life without my husband, but, as they say, everyone is free to do as they please.

There is not fault with the teaching's of Christ. However, the individuals applying those principals, may want to give themselves more credit. Also thier other half.

I married at 18, right out of high school to my "high school sweetheart"-he turned out NOT to be, but here I am nearly 40 years into this relationship and boy, have I been unhappy! We've grown together and apart, if that's possible. I guess we're just a "habit" to each other, not able to see ourselves beyond what we know right now. We've always been a bit "unstable"-not enough money, not really very mature, not able to take the pressure of children, not able to really take on "life". If you're 30 and single and you're happy-you are blessed! I'm 57 and have no vision of my own future. I hope you younger girls take a lesson-and LIVE!

Give me a break, everyone these days is an expert on relationships. The idea that women in their 30's won't settle comes from the ridiculous fairytale world idea that has been perpetrated by the media since they were little girls, perfection. The truth to the matter is that no one is perfect, everyone has their pluses and minuses, there is no perfect mate. In our world of self absortion and perfection many single women in their 30's 40's and beyond have unrealistic expectations. Coming from a man's perspective who has been married and divorced and gone through 5 years on the dating scene it's amazing how many women have no clue of what a good mate is. They seem to be more concerned about money, position, status, etc., than what truly defines a person, such as integrity, personality, sense of humor, compassion, etc.

Look beyond the surface and you may just find that person you are looking for, sure he or she might not be the most attractive, have the most money or status, but they may be the perfect fit if you get out of self. Love is not about self, but rather the act of giving with no expectation of receiving back!

I feel, women in general over 30, realize they need to be self sufficient...... and that marriage can end as quickly as it has begain...... Women finally, feel now as men always have, got to have yourself together first........I feel women struggle more with that, takes longer, due to the fact, men can juggle doing so more easily.......only because they are approaching women, in those times and women are naturally more compassionate, than when women are turning towards a man.....I think it is a great, mature sign in our women today...... i say keep your head up, never settle.