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Downsizing: How This Diva Moved From a House to a Trailer

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I should have seen it coming. Signs of the economy worsening were everywhere: tens of thousands of layoff notices handed out, a record-breaking rate of home foreclosures, and friends and family cutting back on expenses.

But being a busy wife, mother, businesswoman and moonlighting writer kept my mind occupied and my calendar full. So one pleasant Friday afternoon, while I was putting away the dry dishes from that morning's champagne brunch with my writer girlfriends, my husband came home from work and dropped a bombshell.

"We need to downsize," he said.

I must have looked at him quizzically. "Downsize what?"

He whipped out several sheets of paper and placed them on the dining room table. He pointed to the top house-for-sale listing, a big house with sprawling acreage. "This is a great deal," he said.

"That doesn't look like downsizing."

"Look at the price."

One-hundred-and-fifty-nine-thousand dollars! Before I could ask, what's the catch? I saw that the home was in Arkansas.

"Why do you want to move to Arkansas?" I asked.

"The value of our house has dropped further," he replied.

He had previously mentioned that our house was upside down. But we agreed to hang on for the eventual upswing. We had spent months trying to work with our bank. But our loan was sold to a different bank, which was then was bought by another bank, which was unyielding. Refinancing to lower our monthly mortgage payments was out of the question with them. Instead, they employed yet another agency to strong-arm us into compliance with their new, higher monthly payments.

"How much value has it lost?"

"About $300,000. I know you love this house but I'll find you another nice one," he promised.

"I don't want to leave this area. Find us something here," I said.

My husband mumbled something about the area being too expensive. He was certain he could find a bargain elsewhere. But I didn't want to live elsewhere. My family and friends were here. My writing and filmmaking connections were here. My volunteer activities were here. Wasn't it enough that I was leaving my home?

And I knew I would miss this house. It was modest for the exclusive, upmarket city we lived in, but I made it into the nicest place I had ever occupied. Spanish style touches were everywhere: wrought iron, vibrant colors, dark woods, tile floors and original pieces of art on every wall.

The exception was the large family room I converted into a movie room. A 65-inch HD television took center stage. I proudly displayed all my Hollywood memorabilia: movie posters, film reels, Oscar trophies, my vast DVD collection, red carpet and much more. The parties we held there were raved about for months. Friends emailed to ensure they were on the guest list. Academy Award nights were planned far in advance: champagne, games, movie-themed prizes and lots of food. The house was perfect for entertaining: from the enormous backyard with patio, barbeque, lawns and swimming pool, to the large living, dining and kitchen areas. Even the front yard had been in the limelight for fun Easter egg hunts.

Over the coming weeks, my husband continued the house search. He did indeed find bargains elsewhere. There was only one local option: a mobile home in a trailer park. I couldn't believe he was even considering it. But being a team player I wanted to show my flexibility and willingness to downsize. So far, all I had said to him was no. No to Arkansas. No to Arizona. No to Texas.

He drove me over to the neighboring city to have a look.

I held in my disgust. The wretched carpet and wood paneling, not to mention the 70s fixtures, draperies and appliances, turned me off. The home smelled bad. It was small with tiny closets in the tiny bedrooms.

"We can spend a little to update it," my husband said.

"We'd have to spend a lot," I said. "And I don't like the industrial location. The trailer park itself is ugly."

He didn't reply, but I knew he wasn't happy with me. Once outside we saw another for sale sign and we looked at that unit too.

"I don't see us living here," I said. The rooms were depressing little square boxes. We left the trailer park feeling disappointed. Maybe we couldn't afford to stay local. My heart sank.

Meanwhile, the bank's goons were sending increasingly threatening letters. Our time was running out.

A couple of ultra-low offers on townhouses were rejected and I began wondering if I should host another bash for one last hoorah before we had to leave our beautiful party house.

My dear husband never gave up on trying to keep me in the city I loved. One day, he came home excited to show me another flyer.

"It's in a different trailer park right here in town."

With much skepticism, I barely glanced at the flyer. But the beautiful interior photos caught my eye.

"I scoped it out first. I think you'll like it," he said, smiling.

I realized I hadn't seen him smile like that in a long time. "Okay. Let's have a look."

As he drove, my husband warned me about some elements in the listing. "We have to meet the park managers and be interviewed by the park owners. They all have to approve us before we're accepted to live there."

I laughed. "We have to be accepted to move into a trailer park?"

"It's a really nice park," he said.

He wasn't exaggerating. I grew excited once we entered the park that I never knew existed.
My first impression of the trailer was that it looked like a regular house. In fact, unlike the first trailer park we visited, all the trailers looked just like houses. They had nice front yards, porches and shrubbery. They looked cared for.

Once inside, I fell in love. Yes, the home was smaller than where we lived, but it had an open floor plan and it had character. We could still host parties!

"We'll have to get rid of most of our furniture," I said.

"Your TV will fit in here," my husband said. Bless him for being willing to squeeze in a TV that was much too large for the space.

The spacious closets and the modern kitchen had the same storage as our current house. It even had a small backyard. It was totally doable for us.

"Let's make an offer," I said. "A real offer. Not a low offer that will annoy the sellers."

My husband started the paperwork that day. Everything went well until the day of the interview. Before the deal could be finalized, we had to pass muster.

My husband started off on bad footing.

"We really like this trailer park," he said.

I saw everyone in the room squirm and I squeezed his hand.

"It's a mobile home park. Not a trailer park," the owner said.

The rest of the interview went well, even though my husband used the "trailer" word a few more times, causing others to correct him.

Two days later, we got word. They liked us and wanted us to become part of their community.

We both felt relief. But I also felt joy and excitement. This was an adventure I had never before experienced. I let my husband know my gratitude that he tried so hard to find us a suitable place to get a fresh start.

"I would have gone to Arkansas," I said. "But this is so much better."

The economy may have kicked our butts but we're still together. We may have lost our house but we're still surrounded by our loved ones.

I'm looking forward to downsizing, to de-cluttering and moving on. We're going from 1,800 square feet to 800 square feet. From cocktail parties to potlucks. From a three-car garage to a parking space. What will life be like? Can I still be a diva if I live in a trailer park? I guess I'll find out.

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The youngest of 12, Victoria M. Johnson grew up surrounded by her large, close family. Currently she and her husband live in northern California with her grown children nearby. A professional grant writer by day, Johnson is also a published author and filmmaker. When she's not attending or hosting a party, she loves to travel to nearby or faraway places. Read her blog on Red Room.

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heartland1956

Call it what you want--a really long and skinny home--a manufactured home community--a mobile home park--it's still TRAILER. They don't have to be build to the same codes and standards that a REAL home does. They are made from inferior materials that are produced cheap. Low income or no income people can afford them--and that's why there is more crime and filth that a real home community........it's a trailer people.......

May 28 2011 at 10:57 AM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply
tradewind2004

When I read the article I started to laugh. They obviously over spent like so many Americans. SOunds like she was the one who spent all the money just to have parties. Dump all that crap and get a job!!! If that cute chick lives in that mobile home park, in the picture, I might consider living there too :) I hope the parties were worth it !!!

May 28 2011 at 10:12 AM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply
lisamaxw

I doubt that the "Trailer Park Diva's" new mobile-home-park neighbors will appreciate this article. So Victoria is willing to hang out with them at potlucks during this downsizing period of her life. Bet she'll happily kick 'em to the curb once she finds herself flush again. I wonder, too, if her champagne-brunch-buddies will be willing to haul their cookies to Vic's potlucks and hob-nob with the Mobile Home Park set? Sounds like you're in for another dose of Reality, ma'am, which is usually served alongside a big slice of Humble Pie.

May 28 2011 at 8:18 AM Report abuse +1 rate up rate down Reply
Michelle

Okay, I understand that this woman was not living in a mansion and that she loved her house, friends, city, etc., BUT.......why in the world would she get a mobile home when she could've had that awesome-sounding, bigger place in Arkansas? That just seems ridiculous to me.

May 28 2011 at 8:14 AM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply
CherMoeLin

Although this woman did come off as being snobbish, I think her situation pretty accurately describes what has been happening to good people living in good areas who had decent salaries, when the housing market went bust. It wasn't the people's FAULT, it was the FAULT OF THE CROOKED BANKS and what they did with the mortgages. So when people's home values dropped so drastically and they were paying large payments for a house that had dropped so much in value, but the mortgage was for a higher amount, that means people lost a ton of money. They owed money on the larger home value but couldn't sell for that much and get their money out of it. Some of you idiots want to blame it all on people who bought beyond their means. That wasn't the case at all. IT WAS THE LOAN SHARKS AND CROOKED BANKERS AND THE AGENCIES THAT ARE SUPPOSED TO REGULATE AND WATCH OVER THESE BANKS THAT DIDN'T DO THEIR JOBS. The banks didn't even get punished. Instead, they got rewarded with BAILOUTS that started under BUSH and continued under Obama. People need to pay attention. For at LEAST two years prior to 2008, or even more, it was always in the news that the housing bubble was growing so fast and they wondered when it was going to burst. People should have paid attention and SOMEBODY in our government should have been cracking down on the banks instead of looking the other way.

May 28 2011 at 8:13 AM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply
laurie

Let me say about half way through, I felt some what offended....as I live in a "mobile home park"....there is a huge stigma attached to that. Due to the fact, that many people instantly think of them as old run down places with low life occupants. In my case this couldn't be further from the truth! I for one live (in a park) on over an acre of land...yes in a mobile home park! It is well kept and my home I am often told, is beautiful and people cannot believe its a mobile home. I love it...I have no mortgage and am thankful I don't have to worry about that in this tough ecomomy. Hopefully this article will open a few eyes....you don't need the cookie cutter house to be content, happy and successful!

May 28 2011 at 8:10 AM Report abuse +1 rate up rate down Reply
Mr. Golf

CA is crazy, I know a guy out there that bought a house just over 1000 sf and paid 525,000 for it and it was a fixer upper.

May 28 2011 at 8:02 AM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply
crpostl

Her husband gets it. He is the kind of mettle that saw us through the great depression. If I were her I would have been ashamed to cast myself in such snobish light.

May 28 2011 at 7:49 AM Report abuse +2 rate up rate down Reply
bearseas

Due to the wonderful economy...more and more people are moving into trailers. What we need is for Obama to raise Taxes on income, keep the Gas prices High, charge a Carbon Tax on your electricity, keep turning our food into fuel (ethanol) that ruins your engines, finish taking over health care, banks, big Oil and of course make all the Illegals legal. USSA ....United Socialist States of America.....brought to you by Obama, the Democrats and the so called Republican Progressives. Socialism does not work in a democracy or Representative Republic. Are you better off today than you were 3 years ago?

May 28 2011 at 7:45 AM Report abuse +2 rate up rate down Reply
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CherMoeLin

Three to FOUR years ago, this entire country was on the verge of economic COLLAPSE, COURTESY OF GEORGE BUSH AND DICK CHENEY. Wake up, BOZO!

May 28 2011 at 8:01 AM Report abuse -1 rate up rate down Reply
krs

Hey! Socialism doesn't work anywhere. examples are all around us. Soviet Union
fell apart. European countries in dire straits. US $14 trillion in debt. Socialism is
a failed experiment because it ignores one important fact. Some people want to
get ahead, live better and work hard at it. Some people don't want to do anything
and collect from the fruits of the labor of others. In socialism the government will
control everything and take from the producers and give to the slackers. The
producers then resent the fact that they work their butts off and have a lot
of what they earn confiscated and given to the slackers. So, the producers
start to produce less. Why work hard when someone will reap the beneifts
of your hard work. So then everyone becomes slackers and no one produces.
That is what is happening in Europe. They are busted and we are too.

May 28 2011 at 8:01 AM Report abuse +2 rate up rate down Reply
budbar52

Sorry Frankie I disagree. Sounds like this young lady has been living the highlife. Now the dinner bill has arrived and nobody wants to pickup the check. You can't blame honest hardworking Americans for this type of behavior after all our elected officials are running the country under the same economic principals. We all better be ready to downsize the day of financial reckoning is upon us. If you don't believe me take a look at the European economy.

May 28 2011 at 7:40 AM Report abuse +3 rate up rate down Reply
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